Sometimes we are the source of the tension in our relationship with our hair. Branch admitted that when she wears her hair out, “My hands are in it. I think it’s nervous energy.”
Many of us do the same thing. We separate curls, smooth and lay edges, retwist sections, and then keep touching and playing in our hair long after the style is finished. Then we wonder why our curls are no longer popping.
Not every frizzy section needs to be corrected. Not every twist-out needs to be redone. Sometimes your hair needs a low-manipulation style, a little moisture and fewer hands trying to make it perform.
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Branch recommends using a product with hold when initially creating a twist-out, then returning with moisture when it is time to retwist. The point is not to start the entire styling process over every night.
Becoming curlfriends with your hair does not mean every wash day will be easy or every style will turn out as planned. It simply means replacing frustration with education. It means learning when your curls need cleansing, moisture, definition, protection or simply a break.
Your hair already has a personality. The question is whether you have taken the time to get to know it.
Stephenetta Harmon is a Black beauty editor, curator, and digital media and communications expert who builds platforms to celebrate the power, impact, and business of Black beauty. Prior to founding Sadiaa Black Beauty Guide, she served as editor-in-chief for the MN Spokesman-Recorder and digital media director for Hype Hair. Find her at stephenetta.com.